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1) The Argument For Embracing Your Obvious Imperfection - Is your need to get thing "just right" an asset, or is it holding you back? Here is an article that discusses some of the gifts of imperfection.
2) Other Resources - Here is a potpourri of inspiring and informative videos selected to help you "play your best music" this year.
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1) The Argument For Embracing Your Obvious Imperfection.
One of the common mindsets that brings a lot of misery into the day to day lives of many of the people I work with, is a misguided belief that they need to be “perfect”. More than a few of us spend a lot of time, money and energy trying to have the perfect job or business, the perfect relationship, the perfect body, etc.
Even if you are not a full-on perfectionist, think about how many times you have not danced, spoken up, tried something new, just because you were afraid of not doing it “well enough”. Fear of not being perfect shuts us down, closes our heart, separates us, and can keep us in the stagnant backwaters of a far more solitary existence.
It is interesting to note that not every culture or tradition values perfection quite as much as we do in the West. Many Eastern and Native cultures have much less focus on a personal vision of perfection. Some are downright suspicious of any human attempt to emulate the Gods. More than that, the holding of normal human failings can be seen as an asset. For example, in an authentic Navajo rug there is always a flaw intentionally woven into the design. This is where it is believed the spirit moves in and out of the rug. In other words, it is through our imperfections that we come face to face with our soul, our humility and thus better connect and relate with the world and others.
"To escape criticism - do nothing, say nothing, be nothing."
Embracing our imperfections opens the door for honest learning, progress, forgiveness and deep connection. In short, imperfection is a lot more fun. This doesn’t mean embracing your imperfection is a one-way ticket to mediocrity. Our imperfections can actually be a doorway to experiment, think outside of the box and be a huge motivator to exceptional accomplishments.
For example, it is a well-documented phenomena amongst management researchers that a disproportionate percentage of CEOs and successful entrepreneurs are dyslexic, have ADD or possess some other learning abnormality. It is the growth they incurred working around their “imperfections” that makes them extraordinary.
Another unexpected gift of imperfection is likeability. Some psychologists study what is called the “pratfall effect”. This is the observation that we instinctually do not like (or are a bit suspect, perhaps envious or jealous) of people who appear too perfect. In contrast, we are more readily drawn to people who make minor very human mistakes, as we see them as more real and likeable.
So as you make plans for the New Year, I invite you to let yourself be a very imperfect human being. Vulnerability is a not only sane, it is sexy. Let go of any crazy idea you have about personal perfection. Rather let yourself play, explore, learn and connect as you might have as an unselfconscious child.
A master in any pursuit is someone who is not afraid to fail. Any master has probably tried and failed a thousand times to get where they are. Whereas, the timid perfectionist, may spend their entire life without ever risking going after what they truly want.
This year take the risk of being real. You are in very good company.
"There is a crack in everything, That's how the light gets in."
2) Other Resources.
Ben Zander - Here is an inspiring video from Maestro Ben Zander, talking about that voice in our head that gets in the way of us playing our best music in life.
The Interconnectiveness of Life - A lovely exchange between Bill Moyer and ecologist and activist Vandana Shiva talking about reclaiming our common humanity, genetically modified seeds and the need to make peace with the earth.
Health Article - For anyone who cares about their health, here is an important article that talks about some of the key underlying causes of disease, which is very different that what has been discussed publicly over the past 2 decades.
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