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Steve's Life And Business Coaching Notes - November 2009

Fall Path

My local forest in Autumn - "two roads diverged in a wood,
and I took the one less traveled by".

Greetings Friends, Clients and Subscribers,

I hope you are well. As the temperature sinks lower (at least for those of us in the northern hemisphere), here are a few topics to keep your blood flowing.

All the best,



1) The 10 Habits of Highly Successful (and Deeply Happy) People.

2) Your Health - Practical Tips To Avoid The Swine Flu (H1N1).

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1) The 10 Habits of Highly Successful (and Deeply) Happy People

The other day, I got call from a young woman contemplating her career options. (Not an unusual occurrence for a coach.) In the course of our conversation she asked me what it takes to be both successful and deeply happy in your life.

That got me thinking. Over the years I’ve had the privilege of working closely with over a thousand individuals, entrepreneurs, leaders, executives, business owners and coaches. Many of these people have tried radically different approaches to life.  When you see what works, and what doesn’t in so many people’s lives, you can form a few opinions.

Also, it helps that this topic has been of great interest to me for a long, long time. Over the past 25 years I have read and studied the best teachings from many of the world’s spiritual and wisdom traditions, and had the opportunity to spend some time with a few very wise souls.  And when I add to that some of the gems I have learned from the burgeoning field of positive psychology - which has made huge strides in documenting just what does contribute to higher levels of happiness and meaning – I guess I do have a point of view.

So, the conversation with the young career seeker has started me compiling some of the most common habits I see frequently among the most happy and successful people I work with. While everyone’s personal definition of success and happiness may vary, these are a few of the habits that I see working for the most people:

Competence – Successful people get really good at what they do. They choose paths that engage and challenge them and leverage their natural strengths. They get the best training and experience they can, and typically find teachers or mentors that can support their ongoing development and shortcut their journey. The better they are at what they do the more value they can add to their customers, clients, organization or world in general.

Clarity – Successful people generally have a good sense of who they are, and where they are heading.  In a professional context this means knowing where their strengths, skills and knowledge can make the most difference, and having a pretty good idea as to what the next step is.

Courage – To be human is to have fears and doubts. Anyone who has met with any measure of success has found a way to move past their existing limitations – to move forward even though they are scared and don’t have all the answers. 

Commitment – Successful people have a persistent commitment to move forward. Even though they may often get distracted or discouraged, they have a determination to follow through and put in the critical mass of effort required for any success. 

Calendar Mastery – Very successful and happy people learn how to manage their time well. They pay attention to the best use of their time and consistently get the most important things done. This includes learning how to plan, and delegate, learning how to leverage themselves and most importantly learning how to take care of their health and well-being in a sustainable way.  Without some level of time mastery, most people dissipate their energy or burn themselves out.

Change Mastery – Nothing is static in life or business. Things are always changing. Successful people have a higher tolerance of uncertainty and learn to master the process of change.   In addition successful people are very good at managing the stress that is inherent in any dynamic situation and managing their own energy levels around it – so they can respond to opportunity with creativity and wisdom. Also most successful people have a strong desire to keep learning and growing, and this self induced change translates into much more awareness, knowledge and wisdom over time.

On the more personal level, highly successful and happy people have certain common habits of thought including:

Compassion – Really happy and successful people genuinely care about others.  They have a “win – win”, “give to get” mentality. They have a view of life that assumes we are all connected, so they treat the people around them as they would like to be treated. They usually derive a lot of meaning and satisfaction from seeing others succeed.

Connections – Most of the successful and happy people I have ever worked with put a high value on the important relationship in their lives. They make these relationships a priority and consciously cultivate intimacy, patience, forgiveness, reciprocity and fun with the people in their lives.  Some of the happiest people I know have also developed their own deep connection to the larger currents and forces in life itself - God, The Universe, Mother Earth, etc.  This provides them with higher levels of meaning, a greater sense of belonging, and often far more gratitude, joy, peace, and sense of purpose in their life.

Candor – Successful and happy people practice high levels of honesty and integrity in everything they do.

Calling – Once our basic needs are met, much of the richness and meaning in our lives comes from having some cause, calling or greater purpose that we are in service of.  Really successful people find a way to weave more service and meaning into their life and work.

This is just a good start (10 items all starting with C – what’s with that?). Please let me know what other habits you think should be on the list.  I would love to hear from you.

To laugh often and much;
To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children;
To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends;
To appreciate beauty, to find the best in others;
To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition;
To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.
This is to have succeeded.

- B. Stanley

2)  Your Health - Practical Tips To Avoid The Swine Flu (H1N1)

I don’t know how it is for you, but in this part of the world, there are high levels of concern over the potential impact of the H1N1 (swine flu) virus. There is also a debate over whether the concern is real or over hyped, and a separate debate about the safety of the vaccination.

I trust you will all make decisions that are right for you.

What I want to pass on in this message are some practical tips I received on how to minimize your vulnerability to the virus.

These tips are said to originate from a Dr. Vinay Goyal MBBS, DRM, DNB from India (I do not know what these designations mean – he is said to be a thyroid specialist - and I was not able to confirm the credibility of the source.)

However, since the advice does resonate with much of what I have learned from MDs, Naturopaths, Ayuvedic practitioners and other alternative medical sources, I thought I would pass it on (the comments in brackets are mine):

"The only portals of entry for the virus are the nostrils and mouth/throat. In a global epidemic of this nature, it's almost impossible not coming into contact with H1N1 in spite of all precautions. Contact with H1N1 is not so much of a problem as proliferation is.

While you are still healthy and not showing any symptoms of H1N1 infection, in order to prevent proliferation, aggravation of symptoms and development of secondary infections, some very simple steps, not fully highlighted in most official communications, can be practiced:

1. Frequent hand-washing (Many health organizations suggest at least 5 times a day. In our family everyone has their little bottle of alcohol based hand sanitizer that we use after shopping, getting gas, touching public doors, etc.).

2. "Hands-off-the-face" approach. Resist all temptations to touch any part of face.

3. Gargle twice a day with warm salt water (use Listerine or equivalent if you don't trust salt). H1N1 takes 2-3 days after initial infection in the throat/nasal cavity to proliferate and show characteristic symptoms. Simple gargling prevents proliferation. In a way, gargling with salt water has the same effect on a healthy individual that Tamiflu has on an infected one. Don't underestimate this simple, inexpensive and powerful preventative method.

4. Similar to 3 above, clean your nostrils at least once every day by blowing the nose hard and swabbing both nostrils with cotton buds dipped in warm salt water. Very effective in bringing down viral population. (Alternatively, you can purchase saline solution in nasal spray bottle and spray it deep into your nose on a daily basis during cold and flu season.)

5. Boost your natural immunity with foods that are rich in Vitamin C (lemon and other citrus fruits). If you have to supplement with Vitamin C tablets, make sure that it also has Zinc to boost absorption. (The value of vitamin C is still being debated. I have found zinc lozenges with Vitamin C particularly valuable in slowing the spread of viruses. Generally to keep your immune system in top form, keep your stress low, exercise regularly, eat good food and get enough sleep. Another healthy thing you can do that has a 3000 year track record (Ayuvedic) is drink a little lemon juice in water twice a day. Disease does not proliferate in alkaline environments. Our usual diet makes our system far too acidic. Even though it is an acid, lemon juice actually shifts our system towards alkaline as it is metabolized. You can actually track the change in body ph through little strips that they give away at many health food stores.)

6. Drink as much warm liquids as you can. Drinking warm liquids has the same effect as gargling, but in the reverse direction. They wash off proliferating viruses from the throat into the stomach where they cannot survive, proliferate or do any harm."

Take good care of yourself and your loved ones.

"Health nuts are going to feel stupid someday,
lying in hospitals dying of nothing."

- Redd Foxx

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Steve Mitten CPCC, MCC, 2007 Canadian Coach of The Year, 2005 International Coach Federation President, is an internationally recognized Master Coach that works with individuals, leaders, and business owners. He helps his client get clear, get a plan and enjoy far more success, meaning and happiness in their lives, careers and businesses.

Visit Steve at www.acoach4u.com

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